What are the two pillars of self esteem ?

The first pillar is self efficacy. This is confidence in the functioning of my mind my ability to think, to understand , to learn, and to make decisions with confidence is root is in self trust and self-reliance.

The first pillar is evident by our respect for ourselves as we tend to act in ways that confirm and reinforce this respect, such as requiring others to deal with us appropriately.

If you are tired of having people run over you then you need to look in the Mirror and make a change